E-harmony is a process. I guess this is fair - any relationship you embark upon is a series of steps that lead to a friendship or an acquaintance or whatever. E-harmony has just laid the steps out for you in point form so you can prepare for what is coming next. Once you've completed the first 4 steps in "guided communication" you read a nice (albeit long) message from Dr. Warren. Basically, it's a disclaimer...you know, the standard...we don't do background checks, follow your intuition, be extra cautious of anyone asks for money (er...there goes that idea...) and then you reach "open communication." I'm not going to lie, this is a little intimidating. For the past month or so, you've been guided thru the communication. They give you a list of questions you can ask and then (these guys have thought of everything...) they give you answers to pick from. You hardly have to think. Plus, there's this build-up to the open communication. This person liked the answers to your first questions, liked the answers to your second (long answer) questions, they've read the
warning advice from Dr. Warren, and they still want to talk to you. What do you talk about? You know, besides the weather...no, seriously...what???
I've reached this step with one guy who's a high school teacher. For this reason, I shall call him Mr. Kotter (Can you believe this is the only reference to a high school teacher I can think of? And I've been thinking all day...this is all I've got. I think it's important to mention, though, that it's really Mr. Kott-ah or Mr. Kot-tair...depending on your level of cool vs. geek. I also think it's very important to point out that I have only watched this in re-runs...I think I was 2 when it first came out...)
Mr. Kotter is tall (6 feet)...this is good. Mr. Kotter has a 6 year old daughter. This is also good. Very good. Mr. Kotter is 36. He likes to laugh (well that's a relief...) and is physically active. He feels chemistry is very important and can tell within the first few dates if said chemistry is there. If he could do anything with no consequences, no cost, and no one would ever find out he would 'paint the town red.' Yup. You know as much about Mr. Kotter as I do. Almost a month of "guided" communication and I know that he likes to laugh. Who - dare I ask - doesn't like to laugh?
So, he asked about my day, and I mentioned the unusually warm weather we're experiencing right now. I'm waiting with bated breath for his response...
It's a start. A beginning, really. Who knows what may happen. I'm trying to remain absolutely neutral, but I will say that in the little recesses of my mind I am hopeful. What if it works out? Wouldn't it be great to be a stepmom to a little girl only a year older than Q? And he's a teacher. That is so fabulous. Not only is he inspiring young minds, but he can also help Q with his homework! It's perfect, right?
And I'm only just a little planning our wedding in my head...