I wonder if I should be concerned about the amount of time I spend alone. I spend a lot of time alone. I'm actually a little bit embarrassed to admit how much time I spend by myself.
I have reasons (excuses). I work very hard. I spend 8 hours a day with my *A* game. I need to know multiple business processes and recognize multiple product types. One mistake and my company can lose money. I like to think I have a strong work ethic and I don't like to make mistakes. I carry it personally, so screwing up is not an option. I need to be decisive. Work can be stressful only because I make it so. I manage people and my job is to be really super personable. It's not just my job, though. I enjoy being kind and compassionate towards people. I think it's important to be caring towards others, because everyone is fighting a battle of some sort. But sometimes, it can be taxing to be nice to that person in the grocery store when all you want to do is tell them to move their slow, fat ass out of way so you can reach the Activia yogurt. Or to the guy banging on my car window this morning - while I'm in the drive thru line with my son in the back seat - because I won't give him a quarter so he can go buy a smoke off someone. I had some choice words for this guy telling me I have more money than he'll ever have. That may be so, dude, but I've also worked my ass off for it, so why don't you go get a job and then we'll talk. Instead, I just smiled.
I'm a single mother to a very busy 7 year old boy, and that's a full time job in itself. Homework and reading and hockey and soccer and he asks, "Why?" an awful lot. He's an only child, he needs (wants) me to play with him and entertain him and interact. I can't say, "Go play with your brother." And I don't really enjoy playing hockey. I'm a 'Game of Life' whiz, let me say. Me time, often, is quiet time.
I have friends. Really, really great friends. Like awesome friends. I have single friends and married friends. I have new friends and old friends. I have friends with kids and friends without. I have friends that have been there with me through thick and thin, and friends who I know would be should the need arise. I am so blessed by the people I have in my life. But schedules are difficult to coordinate, and a social life is expensive.
I'm exhausted. I look forward to getting home and putting on my fleece jammie pants, my favourite hoodie, flipping on the t.v. and watching 'Dancing with the Stars'. I look forward to eating chocolate when no ones watching. I look forward to Grey's Anatomy. In fact, it's a highlight of my week. I love my computer and my iPhone and stupid little word games that shut off my brain.
I'm a homebody by nature. I can easily watch a documentary on Thailand and feel completely content that it's there and that I've seen it without actually having to experience it. I can read a book about a love story written in France and feel as though I've lived in France for my whole life. I can imagine stories in my mind and feel as though I'm missing nothing of the world.
I love going to bed. I have a really, really comfy bed and an awesome duvet. After Q was born and I suffered post partum depression, sleep was instrumental in my recovery. I notice whenever I get silly and super stressed and anxious, it's usually because I haven't had enough sleep. And enough sleep for some is 6-8 hours, but for me...10 hours is perfect, but I can function on 8. Sleep is my coping mechanism. It keeps me sane.
But I have to wonder if there is more to life than the one I'm living. While I'm sitting at home scrolling through Pinterest, people are out there....living. While I'm playing 'Words with Friends', there are real live friends out there for the taking. I wonder if I'm missing out on the finer things in life, and why am I okay with it? Is it fear? Am I so comfortable in my bubble, too fearful to see what's outside? Is it complacency? Coming home to my jammies is so easy. I'm so concerned with my life meaning something and yet I'm not really doing anything to make it so. My greatest fear is dying and my tombstone reading, "Who?" but at the rate I'm going, people might just wonder where User 3738499 went on Draw Something.
Even my mom (extreme irony here) says I need to get out more. She gets out more than I do, and she's more than 20 years older than me. I mean, if anyone should be getting 10 hours per night, it's her. Right, Ma?
So, I guess what I'm saying is....have a free evening? Give me a call. I'm free. I'm reaaaaaaaaally free. Except on Thursdays, cuz that's Grey's Anatomy. I guess there's PVR, though. I could PVR it...Okay, so ya I'm free.